Why I Got Back Together With My Ex
I’ve always been the person who moves forward. When a relationship ends, I don’t look back. I cut the cord, feel the feels, do the healing work, and move the hell on.
But recently, life invited me to break that pattern in the most unexpected—and honestly, humbling—way.
This spring, I got back together with my ex.
Not just any ex. My son’s father. The person I never thought I’d love romantically again. The person I’d built a life with, walked away from, and co-parented alongside while I rebuilt myself from the inside out.
And I want to share the story with you—not because I think everyone should get back together with their ex (they shouldn’t), but because there’s a lot of beauty, healing, and spiritual gold in how this all unfolded.
When we split, it wasn’t pretty. Addiction had entered the picture. Our communication was breaking down. Our nervous systems were fried. We both had some serious inner work to do. And honestly? I thought we were done for good.
But over the next year and a half, something inside me softened.
Through coaching, therapy, plant medicine, cacao ceremonies, and a lot of spiritual sweat, I stopped blaming and started owning. I stopped trying to rush into the arms of someone new to avoid my pain. I got clear on what I wanted—and more importantly, on who I was when I wasn’t performing, pleasing, or proving.
And then one day, I woke up with the strangest download from my guides:
“Ask him if he’d have another baby with you.”
At first, I laughed it off. Um, no thanks. I’m not doing that. But the message got louder. Clearer. So loud I couldn’t ignore it.
So I texted him. Something simple and wild like:
“Would you ever consider having another baby with me?”
To my surprise, he said… he’d been thinking about the same thing.
And that’s when something clicked. We started talking again—slowly, gently, like two people who’d been through a storm and made it back to shore with fresh eyes and open hearts.
We weren’t rushing. We weren’t romanticizing. We were curious.
And what began as a logistical conversation about possibly giving our son a full sibling turned into something much deeper:
>A realization that we had both grown.
>That we had both healed.
>That there was still love here—and maybe, just maybe, a second chance.
So here we are. Dating again. Co-parenting more mindfully than ever. Planning a future together not from desperation or fantasy, but from love, trust, and real-time alignment.
It’s been scary. It’s also been healing in a way I didn’t know I needed.
And the biggest lesson?
Sometimes the Universe does bring someone back—not to test you, but to show you how much you’ve grown.
I share this story not because I think going back to an ex is the answer. But because I want you to know that people can change. That love can evolve. And that when you really do the work, you create space for a new version of yourself—and maybe, just maybe, a new version of love.
If you’re navigating your own healing journey, or you’re standing at a crossroads wondering what’s next—I hope this gave you permission to trust your intuition, even when it doesn’t make sense on paper.
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Hey There! I’m Krista
A Retired Nurse Turned Professional Certified Life Coach, Spiritual Business Mentor, Hypnotherapist, World Traveler, Author & Mama to Lincoln.
I was born to be a coach and live a life beyond the white picket fence. I was never designed to struggle through a 9-5 job and sell my soul to the devil.
Now I work with heart-centered humans all over the world showing them how to become life coaches and start their own online businesses.
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